Thursday, April 28, 2011

A Guide to Facebook Etiquette

The following rules and guidelines are generally common sense observations and behaviors. The problem is that when some people get on a social website, they forget the good manners and common sense their parents taught them. There are also some rather unusual circumstances and unique opportunities that we generally don’t face in the real world which often comes up in the land of the internet. This is a guide on handling those opportunities, circumstances, and up close personal encounters with total strangers.
1. Don’t request that I confirm you as a family member when you are not.
I would be delighted to confirm my sisters, children, husband, and any other members of my extended family. But I will not confirm total strangers as family members-- and really, I don’t understand why anyone would even make such a request, but they do. I can only assume that it’s a private fantasy.
2. Don’t tag me in photographs.
There are a couple exceptions to this rule. It’s okay to tag me if 1) I’m actually in the photograph; 2) You are a family member or a close personal friend who wants to make sure that I’ll see this photo.
Now…I’m assuming that I don’t have to include drawn-out definitions of ‘family member’ and ‘close personal friend’. I will state plainly that neither of these exceptions pertain to random pieces of internet art from strangers, photos that include people I don’t know from places I’ve never been, or those cheesy ‘birthday’ posters which seem to come in twenty at a time.
3. Don’t post apps on my page.
For those people who are into apps, fine and dandy, if this rocks your boat and you enjoy playing with it-- by all means, knock yourself out. But I don’t do apps, plain and simple. I will block apps that are posted to my page. And I really would like to warn people who do dabble with apps that many of them carry viruses, and I’ve personally experienced this-- enough times and with enough trouble and problems that I decided…no more apps, period.
4. Don’t be rude or asinine.
People tend to be much more bold about what they will say to you on the internet than they would probably be in a face to face encounter…I hope.
A perfect example of this is when I post updates for products or services for my online metaphysical shops and tarot readings. The last time I did this is when I got a new shipment of jewelry in and posted it to Enchanted Jewelry. This guy comes on with this statement: “Do you not know that the Goddess is not for sale.”
The Goddess may not be for sale, but my jewelry is.
My online shops and readings are a business. I am not a rich woman. I am not in the grand position of being able to give away merchandise that I’ve purchased from other vendors or created myself with materials that I‘ve paid good money for; and I cannot afford to spend hours doing tarot readings without being reimbursed for my time. Facebook is a wonderful venue, not only for making friends and socializing, but for networking with your business, expanding business contacts, and getting your products and information out there.
Bottom line here is if you are rude or obnoxious, I have no qualms about hitting the block button. I will not tolerate assholes-- either in the real world, or in the land of Facebook.
5. Before you come on to a woman with a cheesy pick up line, check her profile and look at the relationship status.
I’m married. My husband and a link to his page are right there-- under my profile photo. I don’t know how much plainer I can make it.
I’m at Facebook for a few simple reasons: 1) to meet other like-minded people in the pagan community; 2) to network my business and my website; 3) to advertise my book, as well as future projects coming up. I thoroughly enjoy the majority of people I’ve met at Facebook and consider it my privilege to be able to call them ‘friend’. This medium has given us an invaluable way to meet people we would otherwise never have had the opportunity of crossing paths with.
*Just a note…I’m amazed at the number of men who will try to pick up a woman at a social site apparently without looking past a profile pic to read any information about her. (Tsk, tsk.) I can tell you that even if I were young and single, I wouldn’t give the time of day to someone who did not have enough common sense, courtesy, or interest in finding out about me before contacting me. I would naturally assume that they had the attention span of a gnat.
6. Do not include my name in mass Facebook messages.
I repeat…do not do this.
This is one of the most irritating things to receive in your Facebook message box; and it’s usually from people I don’t know, dealing with subjects I don’t care about. Imagine, if you can, receiving ten of these messages at one time, each message sent simultaneously to fifty people. Once those fifty people start responding to the original message, you will have about 500 messages cramming your inbox.
And yes, I know that several groups send mass messages, and I will receive the bulk message because ‘you are a member of this group’. Well, I hate to tell you, but your mass emails can be irritating as well, and I’ve deleted several groups who make a habit of this practice. I know, I know…you have information to get out there. Well, I can tell you that I’m a member of a secret group here at Facebook-- and I have never sent out a mass Facebook message to its members…that’s what our private website and emails are for.
*Edit: 4-28-2011

7. Do not add me to a group without my permission.

You’d think this is one of those things that goes without saying-- you’d think.
If you are the administrator of a group and you feel I might be interested, send me a query message telling me about your group, with an invitation to join. Odds are, I’m probably not going to join, but you never know. There are so many groups out there, many of them genuinely interesting, but I have only so much time and energy to spend at Facebook.

The last surprise I need is a flurry of emails coming in from a group that I’ve never heard of nor had any contact with previous to being added. Bottom line…If you spontaneously add me to your group, odds are I will just as spontaneously leave the group-- and I will block you.

And that’s about all this Witch has to say for today.

Blessed Be,
Let Your Magick Shine.
And remember…
Kindness & consideration go a long way.

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Wytchy Chit-Chat: Books n' Pics n' Stuff

Right now I'm reading a book by Sherrie Dillard,

"Discover Your Psychic Type:
Developing and Using Your Natural Intuition"

Discover Your Psychic Type: Developing and Using Your Natural Intuition

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So far, I love the book. Ms. Dillard has all of the psychic types nailed down pat, making them easily identifiable: the emotional intuitive, the mental intuitive, the physical intuitive, and the spiritual intuitive. She's included questions, guided meditations, and exercises in order for the reader to identify what kind of psychic they are and to build on those skills. She also includes personal stories and anecdotes that add interest and personalization to the psychic and the process.

Ms. Dillard says, "Our intuitive development can help us to stay connected to the deeper meaning of what occurs in our lives."

Tarot Special!

For an undetermined period of time, I'm offering a three-card tarot reading at $20.00. For more information, or to purchase a reading, follow this link:
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I grow a lot of my own herbs and dry them in my kitchen. These herbs are used for my own personal magickal purposes, as well as in the oils and spell bags that I create for Wytchy Wares. My list has grown to include mint, sage, lavender, rose, lilac, lemon balm, thistle, catnip, wormwood, and goldenrod. I can't wait for the weather to warm up so that I can replant many of the herbs that are annuals in our location-- especially rosemary and lavender.

After the herbs are clipped from the garden, the stems are tied together and they're turned upside down and tacked to the kitchen ceiling to dry. From there, it's a short journey into one of many magickal pots and jars found all over our house.

There are new items available at Enchanted Jewelry.
To enter this magickal realm, click Here

I've also added a special sales page for Wytchy Wares,
and you'll find Clearance Items on this page, click Here

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Dreams: A Fox, a Strange Woman, & a Flight of White Stairs

Dreams…you gotta’ love that filmy world that comes alive behind our closed eyelids, when the secrets of our subconscious mind begins to twitch, to flicker, and come alive as we enter the realm of sleep. I’ve noticed that many of my dreams contain a house, or the essence of a house, usually with a dizzying array of rooms. I’ve often wondered if this could indicate the busy world of my everyday life, filled with a variety of people and roles. I am also prone to dreams of deceased family members. This happens every once in a while, and within my dream, they usually have something they want to tell me.

Early in my studies of the occult, I would have dreams with two distinct characters who would come to me with a variety of interesting messages relating to witchcraft, divination, and spiritual mysteries in general. These characters consisted of a very disheveled and wrinkled stoop-shouldered little woman, with a wild main of salt and pepper hair. She usually shuffled along in boldly colored flowing robes, was surrounded by cats, and would stop and stare at me with twinkling mischievous eyes. Her messages were whispered-- I had to listen close to catch them. The second character always appeared with her back to me. I never saw her face. She was a tall slender very poised woman with long flowing white hair, dressed in somber colored robes. This woman would be sitting, lotus fashion, with her back to me, and when she spoke, I would hear her words in my mind.

One of the messages she gave me, that resonates still today: “Learn to control your mind.”

I keep a dream journal, have for years, and I’ve always been very diligent about recording my dreams in detail; but the last couple nights have been so interesting, I thought I’d blog the dreams that came to me and share them with you.

In one night, through the course of one dream, three objects were highlighted: a fox, a strange woman, and a flight of white stairs.

The fox was a secret, and was being kept concealed in an ancient looking dark cellar with a dirt floor, stone walls, and large barrel kegs. It was sleeping beneath a rough hewn shelf behind the kegs, and I was amazed as it came crawling out of this space, still hazy with sleep.

The woman was sitting on a stool at a bright yellow 1950s style lunch counter. I was seated in a booth right beside and facing this woman. Someone slid in beside me and grasped my hand. In my dream I was able to read this person’s mind, and when they spotted this woman at the lunch counter they were startled, as they knew her, and they were thinking: “I’d better not show Amythyst too much affection, or I’ll piss her off.”

The white staircase was metal, standing free, not connected to anything; and it had apparently been splattered with mud. I decided to wash it off and was amazed at how difficult the task actually was.

A fox, a strange woman, and a flight of white stairs going no where…


Dream Catcher


Saturday, April 16, 2011

The Witch's Corner: update

Wytchy Wares is now offering smaller bottles of magickal oils,
at a fraction of the price, with the same high quality.

The following oils come in approximately 18 milliliter bottles.

Banish the Spirits

(Exorcism/Purification Oil)


Good Health Mojo


The Witch's Oil


Money Mojo


Break the Hex Oil

(Uncrossing Oil)

For more information, or to purchase these oils, go to:

Friday, April 15, 2011

Tea-Time with the Witch: Spring Arrives at Hedgewytch Hollow


It seems like Spring has had to labor especially hard to make it's presence felt this year, but I found hard evidence that it's finally arrived when I checked one of my flowerbeds this week.  The last time I'd looked, these daffodils were timid little sprouts shivering beneath last year's dried oak leaves.

We had new visitors at our bird feeding station this past week, a bird that we've never seen before.  It took a bird-book from a friend to put a name to these lovely creatures:  orange-headed blackbirds.   The regular blackbird is my favorite bird, and when these guys were all together and everyone was busy eating with their heads down, rear-ends in the air, they looked like one big flock of blackbirds.  You can imagine my surprise when their heads popped up.

Since I've had two witchlets move out of the house and into apartments of their own, the remaining girls have been able to spread out and claim their own rooms-- finally-- meaning that they've outgrown their bunkbeads.  I was going to give these metal framed beds away, but a friend gave me a better idea...Much to my husband's delight (*cough*).  I'm using the frame and the top platform to create new wildlife feeding stations in the yard, the bottom platform is going to become a trellis in the flowerbeds.  And since I have two bunbeds, I'll have enough for the front and the backyard. 

I'm going to get a couple more hanging flowerpots for this station, along with a second hummingbird feeder; and I've planted morning glories in the pots sitting by the ladders at either end.  Also, as the birds knock all that seed around, I'll have sunflowers and other cool plants sprouting spontaneously beneath it.  I'll take more pictures as the season moves forward.

We love being able to have Sunday morning coffee on the backporch, and we've been able to do that in early April this year, which is not always the case.  This was our first Sunday morning outside earlier this month.  Although it sounds like the weather is going to turn nasty this weekend, and I think I'm going to be dragging all these plants and pots indoors.  That's what I get for being in a hurry!

"Every spring is the only spring - a perpetual astonishment."

Ellis Peterson


Sunday, April 3, 2011

New Moon Magick

Happy New Moon energy!...Take advantage of this New Moon to rid yourself of negativity, negative people, or circumstances; use it as a path to start over, start something new, or to develop a fresh plan for life. Work magick now for abundance and manifestation at the Full Moon. Embrace the Dark Mother. Use this night for divination and spirit communication.

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Saturday, April 2, 2011

Tea Time With the Witch: Motherpeace Round Tarot Deck

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Tarot Card of the Day:
Shaman of Swords

I'm using a deck today that I've only used for myself so far,
"The Motherpeace round Tarot Deck" by Karen Vogel & Vicki Noble

I find the Motherpeace deck fascinating for several reasons. First, the round shape, this just goes against any deck of cards I've ever owned. It's somewhat odd to handle at first, and it does illeviate the conundrum of 'upright or reversed'. I find the artwork fascinating, and even though the card I chose today compares to the King of Swords in more conventional decks, there is still something decidedly feminine about it.
For today, the Shaman of Swords is telling me...Don't stick your foot in your mouth, rise above the fray, get to the root of the problem; because the circumstances which have arisen are actually rooted in much older and deeper issues.

Below you'll find a list of herbs that will help with headaches:

Herb for headache #1: Feverfew

Feverfew is a very popular migraine herbal remedy, and because so many people are interested in it, we've given it a page of it's own! Check out our article on feverfew here.

Herb for headache #2: Peppermint (mentha piperita)

For hundreds of years peppermint has been used as a headache remedy. From tea to extract, there are lots of ways to enjoy peppermint. Be warned that peppermint is not the thing to take if you have heartburn or similar stomach acid problems.
Peppermint is just as useful for it's aroma and cooling properties as an essential oil. Read more about this herb for headache on our home remedies page.

Herb for headache #3: Passionflower (Passiflora alata)

Passionflower is a calming herb. Taken as a tea before bed, it can help you sleep. At least one clinic trial has found it to lower anxiety. It is also believed to have anti-inflammitory and pain killing properties. Great for migraine!

Herb for headache #4: Ginko (ginko biloba)

The leaf of the ginko tree is an extremely popular herb for headache, but the medical evidence is still hotly disputed. Ginko is said to improve the flow of blood and get more oxygen to the brain, hence not only relieving headache but improving memory and alertness as well. There are some nice teas sold with ginko and peppermint, so why not give it a try?
Note that Ginko is one of those herbs that can cause side effects when taken with headache medications, including aspirin and lithium.

Herb for headache #5: Cayenne (capsaicin)

Yes, that's right – the pepper. Many peppers have an ingredient called capsaicin, which among other things seems to raise the pain threshold. It's gained attention in the medical world in recent years especially for its treatment of cluster headaches, and it's often given in the form of a nasal spray.
Cayenne pepper is an excellent spice to have on hand (well, don't put too much ON your hand or you may burn it!), and may lessen your migraine.

Herb for headache #6: Willow (salix . . .)

White willow bark is an especially popular herb for headache because it works much like an aspirin, relieving your headache pain and causing the inflammation to go down. Like any painkiller, it should not be taken long term. Once again, be very careful about taking willow with other painkillers and medications - check with your doctor!

Other herbs for headache:

Meadowsweet, valerian (excellent if you can't sleep), skullcap, chamomile (also common for relaxation).
Recent studies point to butterbur extract (petasites hybridus root) as a migraine treatment. Butterbur has been recommended for migraine before, but now the scientific evidence is starting to catch up. The dosages in recent studies for both children and adults range between 50mg and 150mg. It is recommended that you use a reliable standardized and safe form of butterbur. In a recent German study, Petadolex was used, which is a butterbur extract.

Below you can pay a little visit to our house. Included is a video of Mistress Pixie Paws and her very odd eating habits-- she doesn't like to get her face dirty and very rarely lowers her face into a bowl; you'll find Miss Cletus on her favorite perch; the kitchen makes the perfect place to dry my herbs; and my pretty boy, Salem, is caught keeping watch over my Big Black Book.

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Yesterday I was having quite a time with a headache. It's not an issue that I have to deal with very often, and I muddled through the day until the afternoon, when I finally decided to do something about it. I have to admit, I took an Ibuprofen, but along with this I got out my book of herbal remedies and scoured it for something that would alleviate headaches. I chose mint, mostly because I like the flavor in my cup of tea-- this is how I was going to take it, and I have an over-abundance of this herb, all harvested from my own herb garden.